You don’t know the meaning of hard until you experience it. How do you move on from just getting a text out of the blue saying “I don’t love you anymore.” How do you react? That’s all they ever say to you ever again. All the questions floating around in your head….never will they be answered. You realize there was nothing you did, or could have done to change this that happened. He was always going to leave you. Every “You’re my other half.” “I don’t know how I’d live without you.” and “You mean literally everything to me” was just a lie that you never doubted. How do you accept that? This person who you loved with your entire soul, this person you gave the most you could to make happy, this person you sacrificed so much for, just threw you away. Was it for a prettier option? Was it because his mom told him to? Nothing. That’s all you’ll ever know of this person you gave so much for. You start to wonder if that person was even who you loved, or was it just someone they made up to get what they wanted physically…and now you are far away and he realized he wanted convenience not commitment. He’s going to a different school with tons of other options, how could he stay tied down to one person? Even though they lost themselves trying to make him happy. They gave up everything they loved, to learn about what he loved and listen to what he wanted to listen to. How do you throw away someone who does all that for you, and never once complained or wanted anything but his love for the rest of their life. Will the next guy really be “better” for her or the classic bs line guys throw in to try and salvage the mess they just made: “You deserve better” ? or does the next poor innocent guy spend the first several months trying to fix whatever damage the last idiot made of the poor girl’s trust.
Guys forget how protective they are of their sisters. If anyone ever dreamed of doing the stupid crap they do to breakup with girls to their sister, you better believe that guy is gonna give whoever hurt his sister that badly hell.
Guys aren’t scared of commitment, they’re scared of having to choose. They don’t wanna be the bad guy, but they don’t want tell the truth. Yes, we women mature faster, but we also understand relationships faster. We love differently than guys do. We think way differently than guys do. That’s not a bad thing because life would be boring if everything was easy…
When you find the guy that loves like you love, who fights like you fight, hold onto to him tight. Because if he loves with reckless abandon, all or nothing, I will choose to love regardless of circumstance; and fights softly and hates yelling and big scenes, just. like. you. Then hold tight and pray God isn’t going to take him away.
Breakups tell us a lot about ourselves. No, it’s not always when we are happy being alone that we find the right person, it’s not always the one who has been there all along. Sometimes, it’s the ones we’ve known for a while, but are just re-meeting as someone that we value more than we thought we ever could after going through what we just went through, that make the biggest impact on you and show you how breakups should end.
Breakups should end in finding out how strong we are, and how angry we are not. When we love, we forget about all the problems, when the love goes away but ours stays, we forget love is not angry. For that love was exactly what we needed at the time, and nothing on earth would’ve changed how we felt about it. Sometimes it takes the worst storms to alter our course and let us find safe ground. Breakups are messy, they suck, and they take forever to get through, but never forget that it’s just the end of a chapter in the beginning of your story, a chapter you can’t skip because of all the growing you did through it. The next chapter will be better than all the ones before, because you did it. You made it through, yeah it was hard. No, you didn’t think you’d ever make it through, but you did. So keep reading, you aren’t defined by one chapter.
Not big on crying, but wow.